Is my partner’s sexual pleasure my responsibility? | #KrunchWithKhutso

It’s easy to assume that your partner’s sexual pleasure is your responsibility, but sexologists recommend that “each to their own” is the approach that should be taken towards sexual intimacy.

Sexologists advise that a happy and healthy intimate relationship requires both parties to be committed to practising relational self-awareness. This allows you to understand what’s happening inside and around you, thus promoting better communication is all aspects of the relationship. 

“We need to focus on slowing things down to explore each other’s bodies”

– Catriona Boffard opened the #TlofTlofTalks discussion on #KrunchWithKhutso

How can you make sex all about you without being selfish?

Tweeps asked Boffard this question and more, and even opened up on issues usually considered taboo to discuss:

You need to explore and understand why they don’t. And please don’t force them into doing anything that makes them uncomfortable. Why not try using a toy for anal play instead?

— CatrionaBoffard (@catrionaboffard) March 4, 2020

Approach her with compassion, curiosity and concern (the 3 C’s). Ask her what’s happening for her from a genuine place of emotional connection not from a place of “I want to have sex more than you do”

— CatrionaBoffard (@catrionaboffard) March 4, 2020

“Prioritizing sex is important. It is one of the fundamental parts of an adult romantic relationship.”

-Boffard weighing in on whether or not scheduling sex is important.

 

Khutso Theledi unpacked these dilemmas and more with sexologist Catriona Boffard.

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