{"id":11583,"date":"2020-03-09T16:32:29","date_gmt":"2020-03-09T14:32:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.yfm.co.za\/devworld\/?p=6289"},"modified":"2020-03-09T16:32:29","modified_gmt":"2020-03-09T14:32:29","slug":"is-my-partners-sexual-pleasure-my-responsibility","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.yfm.co.za\/devworld\/2020\/03\/09\/is-my-partners-sexual-pleasure-my-responsibility\/","title":{"rendered":"Is my partner&#8217;s sexual pleasure my responsibility? | #KrunchWithKhutso"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4>It&#8217;s easy to assume that your partner&#8217;s sexual pleasure is your responsibility, but sexologists recommend that &#8220;each to their own&#8221; is the approach that should be taken towards sexual intimacy.<\/h4>\n<p>Sexologists advise that a<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> happy and healthy intimate relationship requires both parties to be committed to practising <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/loving-bravely\/201707\/the-most-crucial-trait-look-in-partner\">relational self-awareness<\/a>. This allows you to understand what&#8217;s happening inside and around you, thus promoting better communication is all aspects of the relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h4>&#8220;We need to focus on slowing things down to explore each other&#8217;s bodies&#8221;<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>&#8211; Catriona Boffard opened the #TlofTlofTalks discussion on #KrunchWithKhutso<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>How can you make sex all about you without being selfish?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tweeps asked Boffard this question and more, and even opened up on issues usually considered taboo to discuss:<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">You need to explore and understand why they don\u2019t. And please don\u2019t force them into doing anything that makes them uncomfortable. Why not try using a toy for anal play instead?<\/p>\n<p>&mdash; CatrionaBoffard (@catrionaboffard) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/catrionaboffard\/status\/1235142957600313346?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">March 4, 2020<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">Approach her with compassion, curiosity and concern (the 3 C\u2019s). Ask her what\u2019s happening for her from a genuine place of emotional connection not from a place of \u201cI want to have sex more than you do\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&mdash; CatrionaBoffard (@catrionaboffard) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/catrionaboffard\/status\/1235142647788048384?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">March 4, 2020<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h4>&#8220;Prioritizing sex is important. It is one of the fundamental parts of an adult romantic relationship.&#8221;<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>-Boffard weighing in on whether or not scheduling sex is important.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Khutso Theledi unpacked these dilemmas and more with sexologist Catriona Boffard.<\/p>\n<p>Listen here for more on this spicy #KrunchWithKhutso chat:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><iframe src=\"https:\/\/streaming.fabrik.fm\/fabrik\/echocast\/player\/rewind-single\/player.html?id=911bf04b-f407-4d12-bf38-f5392b28d26c&amp;web_url=https:\/\/echocast.fabrik.fm\/m8KMzZxwWzzKmD&amp;podcast_id=8ace0df4-9fc0-4323-8ae3-97146d005e45\" width=\"70%\" height=\"150px\" frameborder=\"\"><a>Podcast stream by Fabrik.fm<\/a><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s easy to assume that your partner&#8217;s sexual pleasure is your responsibility, but sexologists recommend that &#8220;each to their own&#8221; is the approach that should be taken towards sexual intimacy. 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