Lebo M’s marriage history sparks debate on love, wealth, and gender norms

Cultural commentator, Anele Siswana, says Lebo M’s latest engagement reflects a complex interplay of personal longing, public identity, and possibly unresolved emotional patterns.

The internationally acclaimed producer made headlines after posting a photo suggesting that he will be tying the knot again with Mel Ntsala.

The pair got engaged in 2019, but later separated amid allegations of infidelity.

Lebo M, known for his multiple high-profile relationships, is set to marry for the fifth time.

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The news has been met with widespread criticism, with many questioning his ability to maintain a healthy relationship.

Siswana suggests that, like many, Lebo M may be seeking connection and a sense of belonging, but doing so under the heavy weight of fame, public expectations, and unresolved past experiences.

“A deep belief in true love might drive someone to keep trying despite failed attempts. On the other hand, repeated patterns without introspection may suggest a longing to find in others what hasn’t yet been found within.”

Siswana goes on to describe this as a kind of love deficit that keeps one in pursuit mode without ever fully arriving.

While many have criticised and accused Lebo M of using his wealth as a tool for control in relationships, Siswana notes that it’s also important to recognise how, in society, wealth and status often amplify desirability, particularly for men.

“It can create a kind of social capital that reinforces power in relationships. However, being “high-value” externally doesn’t always translate to emotional readiness or relational depth.”

On questions whether it would be deemed acceptable if a woman was to remarry multiple times like the world acclaimed producer, Siswana drew a parallel between the two scenarios.

“Society tends to label such women as unstable or indecisive, while men are romanticised as persistent or passionate. This double standard reflects patriarchal values that still govern how we view gender, relationships, and agency,” he says.

The expert further emphasised the need for society to challenge the deep-rooted biases that equate a woman’s worth with marital success or longevity.

“If love and partnership are human needs, then women like men have every right to try again. We change the narrative by normalising diverse relationship paths and honouring the emotional courage it takes to keep loving, even after loss or failure.”

Lebo M legit said to his fiancé “congratulations on your new best life.”. 😭🤣🤣🤣 pic.twitter.com/1yVt7Lmifo

— Char_2709 (@Char_2709) June 2, 2025

When it’s a man getting married for the 10th time, they say “Lebo M’s belief in love remains as unwavering as ever.” If it was a woman, they’d say the groom must be careful and she’s the most ran through woman in Johannesburg.

— Godisamang Khunou (@Miss_Godi) June 1, 2025

One thing about Lebo M — he’s definitely going to get married! Grootman doesn’t believe in just dating; he skips straight to the wedding. And honestly, I admire his dedication to love — his marriage energy is unmatched!

— Dabane wakwa Laxa (@MelikhayaL3006) June 1, 2025

Lebo M needs to be banned from Home Affairs. I have not comment for the women who keep marrying him.

— Bang (@MsMabala) June 2, 2025

No matter how many times Lebo M has divorced, the man clearly believes in marriage , and apparently, he’s getting married again.

I need Showmax to bring back his reality show. pic.twitter.com/RaaXgxGIO1

— Jabulani Macdonald ⚡️ (@Jabu_Macdonald) May 31, 2025